What hinders a Healthy Sex Life in Committed relationships by Dr Patrick

first_img Related Items:Dr. Patrick E. Prince, healthy sex life Facebook Twitter Google+LinkedInPinterestWhatsApp Facebook Twitter Google+LinkedInPinterestWhatsAppSex or sexual issues are usually symptoms of other problems within the relationship. When these are resolved, most couples realized it was never about sex.The following checklist highlights a few of the common relationship issues that I have experienced / addressed throughout my 23+ years of practice dealing with couples. This is not limited to TCI, but includes my Country, St. Kitts & Nevis, as well as other Caribbean Countries, and the United States of America where I studies and trained. This is not an exhaustive list; and these so-called sexual issues are often not about sex or sexual activities, but are signs and symptoms of other fundamental issues that are ignored:1. Boundary Issues – most spouses want to change their partners, and can’t; thus, there are holdouts on sexual activities as a way to pressure that change, which often never comes. Instead, it puts more strain on the relationship and on sexual activity.2. Decreased or Lack of Intimacy – as a result of couples not being able to spend the quality time and communicating as openly and positively as before, when they first met; desire for and affection towards each other decline. This often leaves both partners, or at least one partner unsatisfied; and sexual activity becomes more of a chore than a cloud of bliss.3. Distracted Attention – couples usually bring children into the mix. Children are a blessing; but couples have a tendency to allow children to distract their love, romance, and intimacy. Couples don’t date anymore, don’t have their sexual cat-plays anymore, they don’t dress sexily in the bedroom anymore… when asked why? The usual response, “the Children.” Of course, this hinders getting to the home base (Sex!!!).4. Emotional Cheating – because of all of the above previously highlighted issues, couples usual turn to a friend or a online buddy or a neighbor to confide in. This becomes a habitual activity. And, before you know it, it has gone too far. In most cases, there are no physical sexual interactions. However, the partner becomes so caught up in the emotional relationship that it distracts from the actual “real” relationship. Not finding a way to effectively communicate their needs and the relational hiccups, couples cause the door to the bedroom to be temporary closed.5. Lack of Appreciation – can trigger infidelity or emotional cheating. When a partner does not feel appreciated, s/he often turn to others for such attention. More often than not does “it” stays as verbal compliments. Left attended, it crosses over to the other side… where sexual activity looks brighter.6. Lack of Effective Communication – instead of couples communicate with each other, they talk at each other, complain to each other, and criticize one another as a means to communicate. What this does is turn off the switch to the activities in bedroom, starting with a decline in intimacy and foreplaying.7. Money – The Mighty King Sparrow (Calypsonian) sings, “No Money, No Love.” Couples are often not openly honest with each other about the finances. In many relationships, couples don’t budget; and the financial resources become depleted. The bills are yet to paid, but one partner has a new set of leather car seats or the other partner gets her ballroom-style gown, nails done, hair style off the chain for the upcoming event… Either way, neither partner previously discussed their spending; and thus, this turns into a verbal fight of yelling and name calling, resulting into resentment lasting for weeks up to months. When this happens, you know the bedroom door is closed for business… No Money, No Love!8. Poor Time Management – due to the stressful demands of work and hours spent on community volunteering activities, couples become so busy and distressed that the quality of their marital relationship decline, starting with the lack of spending quality time with each other. Therefore, the teasing and cat-playing that usual precedes awesome sexual activities are stopped; thus, killing the “big bang” feeling during sexual activities.9. Technological Interference and Distraction – with technology comes responsibility. Many couples text at dinner, at family meetings, in the bedroom – when they should be touching and gently caressing each other. Having the laptop in bed all the time next to your partner, doe not equal “Quality Time.” Many couples are on Facebook, when they should be kissing their partners faces. Many are on Twitter, when they should be tweeting the words of love in their partners ears. When this happens, partners will be turned off; thus, shutting the lid to the cookie jar.10. Unwillingness to Forgive – “I can forgive, but I can’t forget” … is usually what is said when asked about forgiving the past and moving on for the better. Many couples are NOT willing to forgive; … they are able to forgive, but more often, they are NOT willing to forgive. When this happens, resentment usually dominates and many partners resort to sleeping in the children’s or other bedroom or on the sofa / couch to avoid intimacy or sexual interactions with their significant other.last_img read more

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Samantha WilliamsGlinton laid to rest on Saturday

first_imgFacebook Twitter Google+LinkedInPinterestWhatsAppProvidenciales, 10 Aug 2015 – Celebrated public prosecutor Samantha Williams- Glinton was laid to rest. The young woman, who has been hailed across the length and breadth of the islands unique and ahead of her time with uncommon talent in the area of law and leadership was with funeral at Paradise Baptist Church on Saturday; she died of health complications on July 12, 2015 at the Cheshire Hall Medical Center. Four year old gunshot victim takes rest in the Bight Conrad Howell to be laid to rest this weekend Facebook Twitter Google+LinkedInPinterestWhatsApp Recommended for you Related Items:laid, samantha williams-glinton Sorrowful season at Abundant Life Church in Provo; two being mournedlast_img read more

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Humidity decreases in time for ComicCon weekend

first_img Posted: July 20, 2017 July 20, 2017 Categories: Local San Diego News FacebookTwitter Humidity decreases in time for Comic-Con weekend KUSI Newsroom, KUSI Newsroom SAN DIEGO (KUSI) — A low pressure system that brought humid conditions to the region will begin to make its way out starting Thursday.Morning clouds and fog will stretch inland until mid-morning Thursday, allowing for mostly sunny skies Thursday. Morning fog will allow for cooler temperatures throughout the day.Conditions will be slightly more comfortable as humidity levels continue to lower through the weekend.Temperatures Thursday are expected to be 76 degrees along the coast, 85 degrees inland, 84 degrees for the mountains and 106 degrees in the deserts.last_img read more

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NDAA Is Done President Signs Authorization Bill at Ft Drum DOD Extends

first_img Dan Cohen AUTHOR President Trump signed the $717 billion fiscal 2019 defense authorization bill on Monday during a visit to Fort Drum, marking the first time the annual defense policy measure has been enacted before the start of the fiscal year since 1996. Trump was joined by Vice President Mike Pence, Deputy Defense Secretary Patrick Shanahan, the Joint Chiefs of Staff and a number of lawmakers. After arriving at the post, the president watched an air assault exercise with troops dismounting from helicopters and taking up firing positions, reported the Watertown Daily Times. Trump noted the persistence of Rep. Elise Stefanik (R) in inviting him to make the trip to New York’s North Country. The president had insisted he had a scheduling conflict. “That didn’t stop [her], and here I am,” Trump said. Read the Hill story for an overview of the legislation. … DOD said Monday it is extending eligibility for benefits from Military OneSource — resources and other tools designed to support active-duty, National Guard and reserve service members, their families and survivors during their transition to civilian life — from the current 180 days to a full year after separation. Services include help with relocation, tax support, financial planning, health and wellness coaching, as well as confidential non-medical counseling and specialty consultations for spouse employment, education, adoption, elder care and special needs, according to a news release. The change went into effect with the enactment of the defense authorization bill.Photo courtesy of DODlast_img read more

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Road crashes kill 3 in 2 dists

first_imgThree people were killed and two others injured in separate road accidents in Comilla and Chittagong on Monday, according to UNB. In Chittagong, two vegetable traders were killed and two others injured in a road accident on Dhaka-Chittagong Highway in Sitakunda upazila early Monday.Police said the accident took place around 3:45am when a Chittagong-bound vegetable-laden truck from Chandina of Comilla hit a stationed truck in Shitalpur area, leaving two traders dead on the spot and driver and helper injured.The bodies of the two deceased-Abdur Rab, 52, from Barura upazila of Comilla and Siddikur Rahman, 45, hailing from Chandina upazila-were sent to morgue for autopsy, said Ahsan Habib, officer-in-charge of Baro Aulia highway police station.The injured were taken to hospital.In Comilla, a truck helper was killed when a covered van hit a truck on Dhaka-Chittagong highway in Hatatoli area in Sadar Dakhshin upazila early Monday.The deceased is Arafat Rahman Rifat, son of Abdul Matin, a resident of Daulatpur village in Begumganj upazila in Noakhali district.Mahbubur Rahman, officer-in-charge of Maynamati Highway Police, said that the accident took place around 6:30 am when the covered van hit the truck, leaving the helper dead on the spot and truck driver and covered van helper injured.The injured were admitted to Comilla Medical College and Hospital.Police seized the vehicles.last_img read more

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BNP alleges no one safe from evil elements in govt

first_imgBNP senior leader Nazrul Islam Khan. Prothom Alo File PhotoBangladesh Nationalist Party (BNP) senior leader Nazrul Islam Khan on Tuesday alleged that no one is safe from the clutches of ‘wicked elements in the incumbent government’.”I would like to ask who is in society safe from the grasp of the wicked people in the current government or the administration. No one is safe as the government is not accountable to people,” he said, reports news agency UNB.The BNP leader was addressing a human chain organised by Jatiyatabadi Ulema Dal protesting the murder of Feni madrasa student Nusrat Jahan Rafi.Nazrul, a BNP standing committee member, said the current situation in the country cannot continue for a long time.”We won’t be able to stop the culture of impunity and unnatural deaths by forming a human chain programme. We must put up a strong resistance across the country with united efforts to ensure the security of our mothers and sisters.”Describing the current government as unelected one, he said the Awami League has snatched democracy by manipulating the national election through ‘ballot stuffing’ on 29 December.”People have got angry with such a game in the name of election, and they want to get rid of it.”He said a strong unity of people of all walks of life is necessary to establish a pro-people and responsible government, and end the culture of impunity.Claiming that their chairperson is seriously ill, Nazrul urged the government to free her immediately so that she can receive proper treatment.Speaking at the programme, BNP vice chairman Abdul Awal Mintoo said the current ‘illegal’ government has turned the country into a hell with its ‘misrule’.He said those who killed Nusrat in Feni are involved with the Awami League. “The incidents of repression and rape will continue to rise all over the country if we can’t dislodge the current regime.”Mintoo, also a noted businessman, called upon people to take to the streets to free the country from the grip of the Awami League government.last_img read more

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BSF kills one more Bangladeshi

first_imgA Bangladeshi national was shot dead allegedly by members of Indian Border Security Force (BSF) at Kiranganj border in Shibganj upazila of Chapainawabganj early Monday.The deceased was Dulal, 20, son of Safikul Islam of the area.Quoting locals, Binodpur Union Parishad chairman Enamul Haque said BSF members of Murshidabad camp fired gunshots on a group of youths, including Dulal, when they went near border pillar No. 178 around 2:00am, leaving Dulal dead.Later the BSF men dragged away Dulal’s body, he added.Commanding officer of Border Guards Bangladesh (BGB) Rangpur-59 battalion lieutenant colonel Mahmudul Hasan said BGB will hold a flag meeting with BSF over the incident soon.On Sunday, another Bangladeshi was shot dead by the BSF at Burimari border in Patgram upazila of Lalmonirhat.last_img read more

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